It's not that these women aren't smart. They could tell you nine ways to make quinoa and list first and last names of every kid in each of their child's classrooms.
It's that I live in Hawaii among the most blissed-out of White folk - where most of my peers have chosen to live "with a little less" to "quit the rat race" or were "born here not flown here" into a huge black hole of national news and politics. It's easy to check out when you live in HI.
My friends purposefully don't watch the news. We are busy pursuing good surf and organic foods.
We White ladies work hard to stay serene.
It's like hitting my head against a surfboard every day. I want to scream at my friends for our letting down of humanity. For dropping the ball of justice when motherhood passed it to us. We may teach our children not to eat at McDonalds but we let them remain dumb about today's protests in Ferguson. We can find time to work out but we can't make time to read NPR.
Millions of White women just like me stick our heads in the sand to stay ignorant of the pain in the world.
If having the choice to check out of race issues isn't whitevantage I don't know what is.
We White mommies aren't forced have to have the police brutality talk with our boys. "Don't wear hoodies in the dark. You could get shot," isn't a concern for my peers.
Come on White Folks!! Police brutality has been a tool of racist oppression FOREVER in this country. Badged and armed employees of the state have been profiling neighborhoods of color for threatening terrorist activity since before the Civil War.
What makes us think that a cop shooting an unarmed black suspect SIX times is anything but brute police force?
What makes us think a grand jury (made up of 9 Caucasians and 3 African-Americans) that votes to not indict Darren Wilson is any different than the juries that have let thousands of lynchers off the hook and sent millions of Black men to jail?
But none of my friends are even thinking about police brutality or Michael Brown or Michael Brown's mother. We checked out of society; we got the yoga mat and cold kombucha to prove it.
My friends make like we are empowered. Like we don't put up with shit because we send our kids to non-traditional schools and make our husbands do the dishes sometimes. As we remain blissed in our ignorance we are nothing more than a handy tool of racist oppression.
We White women could do much more.